Dear Best Friend In-law

Dear man or future man of my best friend, I'd like to start out stating that I couldn't be happier to gain you! You best friend in-law, you! You've done it, you've come and won the heart of a girl that has been such a big piece of mine for years. And consequently, that's the only thing I have against you too! But I knew it would happen, that of course it would happen, because she's of the sort of woman that leaves no question why someone, anyone, would be a taken by her. Isn't she just splendid and beautiful in every way? The only answer to that is yes, and if it's not, you can stop reading this right now.

I have prayed for you, we have prayed for you, do you realize this? You are the answer to many a prayer to Jesus. Thank you. Thank you for being an answer to that prayer! Thank you for being of the sort that Jesus chose, for her, for me. Thank you for being patient. Thank you for not getting impatient and letting God do a work in you, thank you for not choosing another girl, thank you for waiting for your gem, our gem. Because of this, we're already friends, you just may not know it yet. I feel like I know you, because I have prayed for who you are and who you will be.

But I also know that the little things don't always matter. It's easy for girls to make lists of things a man should be or do, but some of the best words I ever heard were that there's many things that would be nice in a potential husband, but really only three things matter: that he undoubtedly follow Jesus, truly, wholeheartedly wants what Jesus wants and strives to be a disciple of that nature. Then that he love people, genuinely care for others, has a heart for them. And last, that he love his wife. Completely love, cherish, honor, affirm, build her up, hold her hand, open doors, speak of her value, be her support, and point her to Jesus. I challenge you to be and do all of this.

But I do have a second challenge for you. Your best friend, my best friend is truly the best there is, clearly that's why we're best friends. She has heard of my difficult times, situations, questions. She is often one of the first I go to for advice. My sounding board. My venting board. My advisory board. She knows me almost better than I know myself, maybe because I become more and more like her, haha!  She is in a place to speak when she sees things in myself that need to be changed, she keeps me accountable, even though I don't think we've ever used that term. She is one of the only few that I trust -and hope!- that goes out to coffee with my future man, to sit him down and find out what he is made of. What does all of this have to do with my challenge for you? Just as I have chosen my friends well(as you can attest to!), I pray and challenge that you do the same. Have at least that one friend-but I hope a whole round table!-that you go to for godly advice, that know you so well that they can show you things in your life that aught not be, that you would treasure and trust to take our girl out to coffee, just to get to know her, to find out what she is made of. Choose good friends, friends that are wise, caring, daring. But none of this will help if you aren't willing to listen. Be humble. Be teachable. Be willing to change and do what's right. While you're at it, do so with a whole group of guys that are willing to do the same.

I sincerely love you dear best friend in-law of mine, I can't wait for you to be just that! I'm rooting for you, but I also know how to shoot, so don't go and do anything you'll regret. ;)

Always yours, because, well, I'm a part of the package deal. #buyonegetonefree
-hannaH Swan



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