Dating After Marriage
Dear friend,
I had been told many months ago that my main task in the season ahead was just to embrace God's love for me. Neat, I thought, but here I am starting to see how true and wonderful those words were. I entered a dating relationship with Jesus, started being pursued by Him rather. Now before all you single girls stop listening, because we all know we've heard the phrase, "I've decided to just date Jesus for a while( until He finds the right man to hand me off to)" far too many times. It's not a silly phrase per say, it's just that it's been said by silly girls who didn't know that we don't have to stop dating Jesus. I'm here to encourage dating after marriage- with Jesus.
A man will not magically come along and make you happy, meet all your desires, dreams, and heart's needs. You can have a marriage that is pretty darn close to magical, but these expectations are much too great a burden for any one person to carry. Except Jesus of course. Jesus can give you your heart's desire, is ready to dream real big along side of you, and He already knows what your heart needs and can speak truth over it better than any man will ever be able to. I would say that not only does our heart need to be so lost in God, that a man needs to seek Him out to find it, but it needs to keep being lost in His love, that it can always be found there. The last line of a letter today was:
"Husband, remind me to spend time with Jesus. To continue to date Jesus after marriage."
I've started to take time to go on a date every weekend. It's become my favorite thing, and most looked forward to event of the week. I'd be okay with my future husband longing to spend time with Jesus more than he does with me. Because I know that just as he can not meet or fulfill all my needs, neither can I. But I do know that Jesus can fill the both of us. If I have asked for a man who loves Jesus more than anything, that means that I too need to be in that 'anything' category as well. If I want to love Jesus more than anything as well, I need to learn to love Him well and to the utmost, before I give my love to another. He has won it first and foremost, and I don't want that love to be lost, but to instead to be lost in it.
So I'm encouraging regular dates, but dates that don't stop at marriage. They say it's important for a husband and wife relationship to continue in that habit, why would it be any different with Jesus? The one who kinda came up with the whole relationship importance to begin with? What's exciting is that I truly think we can never come to a point of knowing everything about the true Lover of our soul. I can literally ask for more of Jesus everyday, and always be given more. Which makes a relationship pretty fun, because there's always more to talk about and discover both about him and letting Him speak into my life.
So wherever you find yourself, that's what I thought you should hear. Something I was thinking about while on a coffee date...I wonder if He would turn water into espresso....
I had been told many months ago that my main task in the season ahead was just to embrace God's love for me. Neat, I thought, but here I am starting to see how true and wonderful those words were. I entered a dating relationship with Jesus, started being pursued by Him rather. Now before all you single girls stop listening, because we all know we've heard the phrase, "I've decided to just date Jesus for a while( until He finds the right man to hand me off to)" far too many times. It's not a silly phrase per say, it's just that it's been said by silly girls who didn't know that we don't have to stop dating Jesus. I'm here to encourage dating after marriage- with Jesus.
A man will not magically come along and make you happy, meet all your desires, dreams, and heart's needs. You can have a marriage that is pretty darn close to magical, but these expectations are much too great a burden for any one person to carry. Except Jesus of course. Jesus can give you your heart's desire, is ready to dream real big along side of you, and He already knows what your heart needs and can speak truth over it better than any man will ever be able to. I would say that not only does our heart need to be so lost in God, that a man needs to seek Him out to find it, but it needs to keep being lost in His love, that it can always be found there. The last line of a letter today was:
"Husband, remind me to spend time with Jesus. To continue to date Jesus after marriage."
I've started to take time to go on a date every weekend. It's become my favorite thing, and most looked forward to event of the week. I'd be okay with my future husband longing to spend time with Jesus more than he does with me. Because I know that just as he can not meet or fulfill all my needs, neither can I. But I do know that Jesus can fill the both of us. If I have asked for a man who loves Jesus more than anything, that means that I too need to be in that 'anything' category as well. If I want to love Jesus more than anything as well, I need to learn to love Him well and to the utmost, before I give my love to another. He has won it first and foremost, and I don't want that love to be lost, but to instead to be lost in it.
So I'm encouraging regular dates, but dates that don't stop at marriage. They say it's important for a husband and wife relationship to continue in that habit, why would it be any different with Jesus? The one who kinda came up with the whole relationship importance to begin with? What's exciting is that I truly think we can never come to a point of knowing everything about the true Lover of our soul. I can literally ask for more of Jesus everyday, and always be given more. Which makes a relationship pretty fun, because there's always more to talk about and discover both about him and letting Him speak into my life.
So wherever you find yourself, that's what I thought you should hear. Something I was thinking about while on a coffee date...I wonder if He would turn water into espresso....
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